Episode 23

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In this episode, I chat with the lovely Mary Caryl, a makeup, image, and style consultant and a woman who doesn’t believe in age holding her back from anything. Her work as competitive pole artist is proof. Mary talks about her life and journey, explains how her passions and careers have intertwined, and offers me some practical advice on improving my pole techniques as I challenge my body. We also get into the power, artistry, and beauty of pole dancing, the gracefulness and even weightlessness of the movements, and how much fun we both have on the pole. 

Today, Mary shares:

  • the mechanics of pole dancing,
  • the importance of practice and conditioning,
  • how intentions inform the body,
  • how a tightened fascia can be like a home-made facelift, and
  • creative solutions to counter problems.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

I have a makeup collection. I try to put together how-to guides for people. I’m here always to consult with women on particulars about their look. 

I never expected that in my sixties I would be dancing on a pole and doing this journey.

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On discomfort/fear:

It’s all about really understanding our own bodies and where our strengths are and we our weaknesses are. And understanding that not every move is going to feel right for your body and that’s ok. Find the ones that you like, work with those…Take a little more time to get into the ones that your body is less comfortable with.

A lot of times change is frightening. My answer to that – I love this word – is vulnerable. We have to allow a certain amount of vulnerability to be about us. If you are not vulnerable and you constantly put up a wall around you, nothing will happen to you, nothing, good or bad.

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On intentions:

I’m kind of like the wind, I go with the flow and try things. 

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On perceptions: 

It’s not about right or wrong image, it’s about, is it working? Every individual has to ask that question, is my image, my look, working for me? Is it getting me what I want?

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On taking ownership:

You only lose it if you let it go. _____________________________________________________________________

On skin care:

Peoples’ skin has become very irritated because of the use of bad products and also lack of environmental protection. 

There are certain basic things that give you an advantage. Don’t smoke. I do enjoy wine with dinner, so moderate alcohol, to me, is fine. Stay out of the sun. If you’re in the sun, be protected. It’s very important to properly cleanse the skin with a good cleanser that is not irritating. A daily sunscreen and a night cream are really good. From that point, then you want to target problems. 

Salicylic acid – that can be good in a product but only about once a week. So you want to be aware of something like that. I would say any product that doesn’t taste good; any product that smells overly perfumy, that one would not be good. 

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On pole dancing:

You can really dance pole in so many different genres. You can dance it raunchy, you can dance it like a ballerina or flirtatious, there’s athletic, you can do doubles, or you can do comedy.

Go to beginner classes, see what happens. It will improve your physicality; you will retain or maintain or gain balance, strength, and flexibility.

When you come into it with just you, just have expectations of having a good time, getting a nice workout, a good warm up, and becoming – slowly but surely – more flexible, more balanced, and stronger. 

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On negativity:

For years I’ve done image consulting and been a makeup artist. Women would come to me for a makeup look or help with their clothes and they would say things like, “oh, I’m too old for that” or something to that effect. And I would psychologically put a bubble around myself because I didn’t want to absorb that. I wanted to help them, but I didn’t want to take that on.

People who tend towards depression have a harder time with the physical, they tend to have more physical problems because the connection’s not there to tell the physical body that I need you to be strong, I need you to be better. 

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On growth:

We have to know how to be a little vulnerable to allow ideas to come to us, to allow experiences to happen, and then we can grow from them.

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On work ethic:

With anything, you have to train into it, you have to learn it, you have to try it, you have to go for it.

Our children are our future. That is so true. We really need to really invest in them and care for them and to bring them up. But the other side of the coin is we are their future. And we need to look at ourselves as physically, mentally, emotionally the whole person, the mind-body-spirit…What we do to care for ourselves will be a good example to them. As they mature and age it will give them hope and inspiration.

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Keep in touch with Mary Caryl:

MaryCaryl.com – learn more about Mary Caryl and purchase makeup, skincare, and clothing or send her an email at MaryCaryl@aol.com.

Episode 22

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Summary

In this episode, I chat with an incredible spiritual guide and a beautiful person, Liana Naima. Born and raised in New Orleans, Liana Naima is a survivor. She shares some of her story and how she’s naturally helped people along the way, including during her work as an educator and her transition to light worker and facilitator of voice alchemy. In our conversation, we contemplate power- the power of language, the power of voice, and her self-proclaimed super power. And we contemplate emotions – defining and redefining emotions to align with our energy. She’s enlightening, inspiring, and informative, just what you’d expect from an educator and spirit guide.

Today, Liana Naima talks about:

  • the cycles of the healing process,
  • how boring we would be if we could only feel one thing at a time,
  • releasing anger without releasing responsibility, and
  • where she doles out free advice.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

I consider myself to be a young spiritual guide and light worker. I live deeply within my truth. And a lot of my work is focused on guiding people to their authenticity, healing inner child wounds, and unlocking the power of the voice. 

I consider my higher self to be the wise, grandma version of me that knows everything related to my higher purpose on this earth. My purpose is always to hold space for the healing process to occur. I actually don’t consider myself a healer since it is always up to the person if they decide to do healing themselves. 

My purpose is to guide people home to their higher self. 

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On her work:

I’m a multi-faceted, spiritual, creative entrepreneur based in Brooklyn, NY. I’m a certified Reiki practitioner that works with breath work and sound healing in my practice. I lead monthly healing events for women and, in September (2017), I’m launching a spiritual book club for women in Brooklyn called The Awakening Book Club. 

Many women were silenced during various times in their lives, and I love to hold space for women to unlock the gift within their voice and to show them how to use singing to manage the waves of their emotions. 

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On discomfort/fear:

Spiritual work for me is literally confronting myself over and over and over again until I can comfortably exist in silence and stillness with earth.

I think my proudest moment this year was being able to work with young black activists. They’re really passionate about self-care yet also really passionate about a social justice cause. I love holding space for people to really deal with discomfort around ideas of white supremacy, discomfort around gender, and really working through these labels that have been programmed in our system.

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On her process: 

[Reiki] really helps you upgrade and cleanse your system on an energetic level.

It’s a holistic healthcare practice. So it works with this idea of mind-body-spirit connection. Even before something becomes a thought, it’s a sensation in the body, especially an emotion. So you’re saying to yourself, I don’t feel safe because of x, y, and z. You’re feeling something in your body. So anytime you repress an emotion, it becomes an energetic block. And an energetic block leads to an unexplainable pain. So reiki helps with soothing and healing energetic blocks in your system.

Voice alchemy is singing. And I align the heart and the throat. Your heart is considered the seat of your soul. I actually teach people to sing from their heart more and it’s like a deeper tone. Singing is, of course, sound healing. You’re working with vibrations. Being that your body is 70% water, you can literally heal your entire body just with sound. _____________________________________________________________________

On taking ownership:

I think a lot of educators view leaving education as abandoning the kids…I really didn’t view it as me leaving their life, I just viewed it as me illustrating to them that you’re going to change and your passion is going to change and your vision is going to change. It’s important to surrender and let go and allow yourself to transform into something that’s bigger than you. 

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On intentions:

Your higher self is the highest vibrational version of you.

Language really does create a wall within your brain. And if you’re super-closeminded…you’re limiting your own perspective and not allowing yourself to shapeshift out of a feeling or shapeshift out of an understanding of something. 

One of my first intentions actually with spirituality was to heal my relationship with white people. I knew because of Hurricane Katrina happening when I was 16, that there was a lot of resentment and hatred in the background noise of my story. And I knew it was creating walls within my own experiences…Of course there is institutional oppression and injustices but there came a point in my experience where I knew I had to let it go because it was preventing me from fully living my life. 

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On emotions:

Being that we are women, we’re connected with Earth’s frequency, we’re connected with alignment with the moon, so we’re constantly going to be in this sort of fluctuation with our emotions. 

Emotions are just so very fluid and working with language has been very powerful for me to having a healthier relationship with my emotions and also having a healthier relationship with societal programming.

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On growth:

Pay attention to your dreams…When I’m feeling disconnected, I actually call on my loving ancestors and my spirit guides to work on me while I sleep. I want to encourage people to get into dream work and you can do that just by setting an intention before you go to sleep for your dreams to provide you with clarity and insight.

Observe your thoughts. Observe your emotions. Really sink into your consciousness and observe what is happening around you. Don’t feel a need to respond to people all the time. Observe the waves of your emotions. Observe how you think. Observe the moment in which you feel still and at peace. Create rituals that help you feel at peace.  

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Keep in touch with Liana Naima:

Websites

Ex.: LianaNaima.com – learn more about her work as a spiritual guide, join the Awakening Book Club, attend a session or event, access free journal prompts, and more.

Social Media

Instagram and Twitter  @LianaNaima

Links Mentioned

Reiki – a Japanese technique for stress reduction and relaxation that also promotes healing. Administered by laying on hands, it is based on the idea that an unseen life force energy flows through us and is what causes us to be alive.

Schomburg Center for Research in Black Culture – a research unit of The New York Public Library system that focuses on African-American, African Diaspora, and African experiences. 

Episode 21

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Summary

In this episode, I chat with Coach Carmina, facilitator of The Camera Ready Experience. It’s a masterful and beautiful workshop that helps people helping people tap into their authentic selves and connect to their story to get their message across to their audience. And, from what I’ve observed, it’s a transformational experience that’s like a soul excavation. Carmina reflects on her life and work experiences that led her to this moment and the leaps of faith that have helped her along the way. We also share some moments on philanthropy and valuing ourselves while not eating beans every day.

Today, Carmina sheds light on:

  • how she was inspired by the devotion and humble service of nuns,
  • how she stopped equating service and poverty,
  • why she won’t ever stop training,
  • why she has a favorite quote about fear (and what it is), and
  • how people can smell your mask from miles away.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

Everyone has an inspirational story that can really change someone’s life but not everybody has the courage to share it or the tools to communicate in such a way that it’s received and digested easily. So we coach people on how to be effective communicators, how to share vulnerably and still hold their power, and how to be freely expressed.

This is our lifelong purpose, to mix our two passions – television, entertainment, freedom of expression and supporting people’s minds, getting people out of belief that block them. So mixing those two we created a sauce that is delicious. 

Our goal is to change the world and so we’re changing the world through people sharing their story authentically.

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On her work: 

My partner and I, Quddus and I, are media coaches and facilitators. We coach and facilitate workshops in a year-long program. The workshop is called The Camera Ready Experience. What we facilitate is people working through their fears or anything that’s blocking them and their authentic expression of their story. 

We curate the room such that it’s all people that are powerful, that are influencing already, that are already being change-makers in the world, and that are focused out and givers. 

[People] can expect at the end of the workshop to come out wanting to finally create and put out projects that they’ve probably been holding onto their whole lives and a new motivation and a new drive and fire for changing the world, for putting themselves out there, and for owning their greatness. 

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On discomfort/fear:

When I have something inside of me that wants to be expressed and I don’t honor that, it can start hurting spiritually and even physically- it feels almost like you’re constipated.

As far as taking a risk and being on camera sharing your heart, sharing vulnerably and intimately can bring up a lot of fear and it can feel like you’re jumping into the unknown. 

So when they’re feeling that fear - right before they’re about to get on stage and get behind that mic and that fear comes and takes over the whole body – to remember in that moment that “I’m going to have the courage to open up my heart so that every single person in this room can open up theirs and heal their wounds.”

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On failure:

It’s really difficult for me to see things as mistakes. 

Even if the audience isn’t receiving it the way you expected them to receive, you at least feel good because you shared your truth. _____________________________________________________________________

On support:

Without coaching, without preparation, without someone really taking us under their wing…I would try to play a role or be someone that I am not just so I could do the job perfectly and not get fired. It didn’t feel good for me to be inauthentic on camera.

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On taking ownership:

We know deep in our hearts when something really, really lights us up. Jump. What you’re telling the universe, God, whatever you believe in when you jump is: I trust. When you take that risk, everything starts happening in your favor. 

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On work ethic:

So finally, within the transformation that happened in my life in the past 4-5 years, I have really come to ownership with the value that I provide. And I’m also very clear that the more abundance I create in my life, the more I am able to transform the world and reach more people…I don’t believe in being a martyr and being like, I’m going to change the world and I’m only going to eat beans every day – no. 

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On resources: 

We use a lot of different experiential techniques and exercises to open people up and to be fully expressed.  

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On intentions:

Number one, no matter how many people have done what you want to do already before you, there’s no one like you and there’s no one that’s going to deliver the message like you’re going to deliver it. So, no matter what, you will be successful because you are unique. 

We want everybody to feel empowered to inspire people.

My commitment is definitely to inject champagne bubbles into people’s lives. _____________________________________________________________________

On growth:

(Advice to others) To trust and to really hold themselves in such a way that they know they’re safe no matter what when they open up their heart. And that when they do open up their heart, every single person in [the audience] is going to then have permission to open up their hearts so they are the example.

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Keep in touch with Coach Carmina:

Website

CameraReadyNow.com – helping people reach the state of being fully expressed, confident, and prepared to impact the world

Social Media

Facebook and Instagram  @camerareadynow

Facebook and Instagram @coachcarmina

Links Mentioned

G.R.A.C.E. – Training in cultivating compassion-based interactions. 

Mastery in Transformational Training –  Dynamic workshops that are a caring, inspirational, and educational environment for generating breakthroughs in the most crucial aspects of your life. 

Episode 20

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Summary

In this episode, I chat with Ann Greenberg, president and founder of A Pet with Paws, a company that designs and manufactures innovative pet carriers and accessories. Using recycled materials, Ann brings together safety and sustainability in super-chic products for animals that have what I can only describe as genius functionality. #Sorrynotsorry, they’re terr-woof-ic! Ann tells us all about her family of creative inventors, her professional journey that led her to the pet industry, and how she uses her already sustainable products to support the environment.

Today, Ann gives us the inside scoop on:

  • her 360-degree approach to sustainability,
  • how her handbag line informs her pet bags,
  • a costly lesson in quality manufacturing, and
  • how people, pooches, and the planet all go together.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

I’m Ann Greenberg and I’m president and founder of A Pet with Paws. The way I approach all my products is to try and merge fashion, function, and thoughtful, eco-friendly products.

The pet industry seemed to lack very sophisticated, chic pet products that were also sustainable. So I decided that I would launch A Pet with Paws. My whole purpose is to offer chic, innovative, eco-friendly products.

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On discomfort/fear:

I had a lot of doubt but, no matter what it is, if you really believe in your product, you just have to push through. It’s like the book - Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.

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On work ethic:

There are always going to be problems, obstacles, challenges but there are also always solutions. So you just keep working towards the solution.

You also have to be willing to do whatever it takes to accomplish your goal. 

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On intentions:

I meditate twice a day, that’s number one. 

Every morning you can wake up and choose either fear or faith; you make the choice.

I feel really good about my products now. Yes, I always believed in them but now it’s like really there in my gut how much I believe in them and feel that they’re right and feel that they’re making a contribution to people and the planet. 

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On filling a void:

I’ve been designing and manufacturing pet products that fill a void that I see in the marketplace. 

People look at things and say why; I look at things and say why not? (Paraphrase, George Bernard Shaw) That’s my thinking behind everything that I do, all the designing that I do. So, when it came to the pet carriers, there’s no reason why they shouldn’t be attractive or can’t be attractive, so I made them look and feel like a handbag. 

Picking up poop obviously is not very glamorous but it’s certainly a necessity because of the toxicity that it’s contributing to the environment. So I came up with the idea of a very chic and fashionable poop bag pouch and wristlet that can attach to the leash or carrier and there’s a discreet hole in the back of the pouch that you can just pull out the poop bag and pick up the poop. 

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On growth:

I look at things and I want to improve them. 

Carrying a pet can often become heavy on your shoulder so I developed the patent-pending Pet-Trek which is a four-spinner wheel, foldable trolley or cart that works with our pet carriers.  

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On support:

I’m basically on my own but I work with a business coach. She has my back. 

I also work with a publicist who is amazing. Of course, my husband is very supportive and my family. 

I also find and found that the people in the pet industry are so much nicer and friendlier than the people in the fashion industry.  People are much more willing to help one another in the pet industry. 

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On sustainability:

The idea is that by having these stylish products that are very necessary, that people will limit the toxicity and become ambassadors for a cleaner environment.

I think it’s important to want to make a contribution. I partner with Trees for the Future so that for every item that’s purchased, a tree is planted. I’m benefitting so I feel it’s important to give back. 

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Keep in touch with Ann Greenberg:

Websites

Ex.: APetwithPaws.com – stylish, sustainable pet carriers and accessories

Social Media

Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter  @APetwithPaws

Links Mentioned

Ex.: LegalZoom – Legal solutions and legal documents for small businesses.

Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway – a book about conquering fear by Susan Jeffers, Ph.D. 

Trees for the Future – helps communities plant trees to restore life to degraded land

Episode 19

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Summary

In this episode, I chat with Toni Okamoto, creator of Plant Based on a Budget, a beautifully-created website that offers recipes, meal plans, and instructional videos to help you thrive on an affordable plant-based diet. Inspired by her desire to help people in general and to help her family through some diet-related health issues, Toni converted some family recipes to plant-based recipes all from ingredients they could shop for at their local grocery stores. She put them on her website and recruited several friends to do the same. With that her purpose came to life. Toni took a leap of faith with no insurance, assurance, or safety net to focus full-time on her passion. I’m honored to share her story of belief in herself and her passion to help others.

Today, Toni shares:

  • her role in the evolution of a plant-based eater,
  • how she became comfortable with uncomfortable conversations, 
  • how she, a self-proclaimed introvert, inspires other introverts to put themselves out there, 
  • her friendly approach to plant-based eating, and
  • the ways she addresses one of the biggest mental obstacles to healthy-eating, the cost.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

I’m from Sacramento, California and I run a website called Plant Based on a Budget [that] provides free resources like videos and recipes and meal plans for people who are interested in plant-based eating and want to make it more accessible to them. We have all different types of recipes done by different contributors so there’s something for everyone. 

I think veganism should be accessible. I know so much about it and I can be that person.

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On discomfort/fear:

I identify as an introvert. I like to work behind a computer in my one-bedroom apartment by myself. And sometimes I don’t want to leave the house. Getting out there and talking to people was difficult and exhausting but I learned a lot and I feel better at meeting people, networking, and other things I hadn’t felt comfortable doing. 

I use very passive language sometimes and I’m trying to get away from that. So I know that I have a problem with being in the spotlight and being a face of an organization or getting recognition in any way or doing things like that. It’s all scary but worth it in the end because I can help so many people. 

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On doing the work:

I think that when people are transitioning to plant-based diets or even thinking about what it would like to introduce plant-based foods to their diet, my website is the first stop on that journey. So I want to be friendly and approachable and familiar and not make plant-based eating seem overwhelming.

It takes some work and I understand why people find that cooking healthy food is too inconvenient. I think that’s why so many people come back to Plant Based on a Budget for that meal plan because I have set it up in a way that uses 100% of the ingredients and offers a grocery shopping list. The free version on Plant Based on a Budget has one month of meal planning for free. I offer a grocery list, recipes, and I tell you how you can make it your own based on what you have.

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On work ethic:

Set yourself up for success, go at a pace that you’re comfortable with, and don’t beat yourself up if you don’t go all or nothing.

Meal planning is maybe the hardest work that I do. We just did a meal plan and it took about 40 hours to do. I do all of my grocery shopping under $20. So I have to spend hours at the grocery store figuring out how to make $20 stretch for seven days…It’s really exhausting. It’s a labor of love. And so many people find it valuable that we continue to do it.

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On intentions:

I’m passionate, I’m smart, and I can do this. 

[Sacrifice] helped me become more of a whole person. Because [before] I would spend my time going to the movies with my friends or going out to lunch with my family. Instead, we would go for walks, we would have a game night. They were very supportive of me not spending money. Because I felt so passionately, they wanted to support that passion. 

It has been a wonderful journey. I’ve learned that you just have to follow your passion and not in a way that is without direction but with education and connections. 

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On growth:

What the Health, I feel, made plant-based eating really interesting and showed a lot of facts about how people can take back their health and made it seem like an attainable goal.

If someone [feels] passionate about sharing inexpensive food that can be found at all grocery stores, then I welcome them to come contribute. 

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On resources/support:

I’m very fortunate to have a supportive family but it was an emotional and scary time. And I hope that anyone listening has faith in themselves and educates themselves.

I started educating myself in a way that I had not done in a long time. I think we get so wrapped up in our everyday routines that we stop learning. I was reading all the time, listening to podcasts, I was learning. I was making meaningful relationships with my friends and family and anyone else who would talk to me. And I was pushing myself out of my comfort zone and out of my routine to do things. 

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On being an entrepreneur: 

I recommend people going into this, especially if they don’t have income, really prepare themselves for some sacrifices. Because that meant goodbye social life like I knew it – it meant not eating out with your friends, not getting coffee with your friends, not spending money on that dress…it meant a total lifestyle change. It was very, very difficult but ultimately rewarding. 

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On negativity:

My biggest critics of my website are people who are already vegan because I don’t promote organic foods. But, really, my target audience is people who are eating fast food everyday. 

People say things like, you’re using oil so you’re the devil or you should be promoting organic. For those things, I just explain that I want to set people up for success and I want them to have a friendly environment…But it’s the harsher comments that hurt my feelings a little bit. 

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On sustainability:

If you’re spending $25 to $35 a week on groceries but you’re used to spending $60 a week, that $5 investment is still saving you money.

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Keep in touch with Toni Okamoto:

Websites

plantbasedonabudget.com – free meal plans, recipes, and videos

plantbasedmealplan.com - $5 for a week of meal plans with a grocery bill of $25

Social Media

Facebook and Instagram  @plantbasedonabudget

Twitter @plantbasedblog

Links Mentioned

How to Win Friends and Influence People – self-help book on increasing your influence, prestige, and ability to get things done

Patreon – a platform for creators to make money, run their creative businesses, and connect with their fans

Startup – a podcast about what it’s really like to get a business off the ground

What the Health – a documentary about food, disease, health, and the healthcare industry

Episode 18

 

In this episode, I chat with Beth Weinstein, business coach for heart-centered entrepreneurs and conscious creators who’s on a mission to transform the world we live in. Beth is also the founder of Only Atoms, an athletic apparel business. From her comfy, cabin retreat, we talk about how she combined her love for running and her background in fashion to create her clothing line and added on to that success with her other mission to help. Laced with specific client examples, Beth gives us an in-depth look at how she’s helped others redirect their entrepreneurial path. We chat about her childhood in San Francisco, playing the game “City” instead of “House,” and how the theme of entrepreneurship has appeared throughout her life experiences. 

Today, Beth dishes on:

  • how her path has deviated from the typical American, consumerist society,
  • why it’s important to be comfortable with discomfort,
  • how trauma can change our trajectory, and
  • how to not spend any more money on mistakes.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

I thought my sole purpose was to share the gift of running with the planet which it still is...but then I started getting these deeper messages about how I can serve this planet on a much more impactful level, on a wider level.

I have these gifts that a lot of creative people don’t have. So, I’m like, here I am to balance you out. _____________________________________________________________________

On discomfort/fear:

I dreamed about my running clothing eight years before I launched it. It kills me to look back. 

When I launched my running apparel business, I literally argued with my marketing advisor. I wanted to launch the brand completely anonymous, didn’t want my name on anything and he was like, you have to share your story, that’s what people are going to resonate with. You have to own it. 

There’s really no need to suffer doing work that you hate and being miserable like I used to be, drinking a bottle of wine to survive and just being a mega-bitch all the time. It’s not a sustainable life. My deeper mission is really to help the world wake up to this – which, thank God is happening around us – to help people step out of the fear and into who they really are and what they’re here to do and live a really great life they love doing work they love and making some good money doing it, which is completely possible. 

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On crisis/transition: 

 

 I think the best thing we can do as humans is to start working on our mindset, shifting our mindset, wake up to realize what are we doing here. What would happen if robots took over our jobs? Well, it is [happening]. It’s not such a bad thing; it’s something that we need to start working on now.

It’s almost like, we have to go so low or face our deepest, darkest shadows sometimes to wake up and realize why we really are here on this planet. Sometimes it takes huge crises, like losing everything…to transition. Why do we have to wait for major crises to start listening to your heart?

I always feel a sense of urgency. Not in a hysterical way, but in a why wait way. The world could be so much better in the next minute. Why wait a minute even? The person who’s suffering could feel joyful instead. 

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On taking action:

The time is now to get your gift out to the world. The world is waiting for it.

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On intentions:

It’s not about you making money necessarily. It’s about you reaching the world that’s looking for it. People are starting to wake up and look for your answers to their questions. And if you’re a woman who’s leading moon circles or a women’s empowerment group, there’s women on the other side of the planet that are out there googling for it, and they need to find your answers. You can speak to women all over the world and actually help shift this planet in a huge way. That’s what I’m dedicated to. _____________________________________________________________________

On running/being moved:

Running is free. I do think it’s like this amazing fitness regime. It can bring so much joy and meditation and awakening to people’s lives. 

I started having this idea of a better running apparel line, kind of more hip and cool and less mass-made because every brand that existed at the time was mass-made.…I knew there was a better way and I knew there was a way to make something that fit people like me, women like me.

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On support: 

I’ve always had coaches. Everyone needs help. It’s part of human existence. 

You have to learn from someone who knows what they’re doing. That was the first piece of advice I was taught many years ago in business. Go talk to someone who’s done it before and learn from them.

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On being an entrepreneur: 

The most common [issue is] misinformation. A lot of my clients come to me winging it on their own. People are doing things out of order and they’re doing it very blindly. 

I try to take this approach of coaching and consulting at the same time. A lot of coaches out there don’t touch on real, tangible business items like, know your analytics, know where your actual customers are coming from, know your return on investment. Let’s say you’re posting on Facebook all day. How many sales are you actually getting from that?

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On growth:

I really took every job move and every experience as a growth and learning experience because I knew one day it would pay off in some way.  

In order to grow in the world and get your message heard in a bigger way and get out there and impact in a bigger way, you need to be supported financially.

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On sustainability:

It’s ok to get paid doing something that you truly feel in your heart that you’re here to do. _____________________________________________________________________

On perceptions: 

Along with my clients, I pretty much had to unlearn everything and relearn a different way of living. It’s more magical than I could ever think of. It’s been amazing. Life flows completely different and that’s what I work with my clients to produce. _____________________________________________________________________

Keep in touch with Beth Weinstein:

Websites

BethAWeinstein.com – business coaching for current and aspiring entrepreneurs

OnlyAtoms.com – men’s and women’s running clothing designed in Brooklyn and made in NYC

Social Media

Facebook and Instagram @bethwnyc

LinkedIn and Twitter @BethWeinstein

Links Mentioned

Outliers – Malcolm Gladwell examines the factors that lead to high levels of success.

Episode 17

 

In this episode, I chat with Margaux Khoury, mompreneur who makes The Best Deodorant in the World. She shares how her product grew from a formula in her kitchen to a worldwide business and how she’s found ways to balance work and family life. Hint: it involves letting go of some things and trusting your team. Margaux is comfortable being unconventional. Choosing, with her husband, to follow their intuition and unschool their children, growing their business more slowly to support that dedicated effort, and doing it all well show how she’s making it cool to be the black sheep. We talk sacrifice, lifestyles, sustainability, snacks (at least I do), and having a gut you can trust. 

Today, Margaux dishes on:

  • how cleaning our bodies from the inside out will make our sweat less smelly,
  • the differences between conventional and natural deodorants,
  • why she wants people to not need deodorant,
  • the challenges of scaling a business, and
  • her unschooling and world-schooling philosophy.

 

Highlights

On her life and work: 

Now that I’m a mom I love mentioning it first. It’s my primary focus, my priority. They are my world right now. And I’m also an entrepreneur. My company is The Best Deodorant in the World. I started out in our home and it sells worldwide in stores and online. And I live in Canada.

 

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On discomfort/fear:

I do have many fears...we have overcome a lot of things too.

 

Predictability is actually very comforting. And entrepreneurs often have very little of that. If I can make my life as predictable as possible, it’s better for me than the fear of what is going to happen. 

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On failure:

My opinion on failure is it’s really great, it kind of leads us to the next thing and also allows us to see when to quit certain things that we’re not meant to do. 

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On knowing your limits:

I love being the voice for other parents as well, letting them know that it is absolutely possible. A lot of people say you can’t have both - you can...There’s been a lot of sacrifices. We’ve sacrificed growing a company super, uber fast because we prioritize our family at this moment.

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On taking ownership:

I really believe in my heart that we don’t have to harm anything in the world to have a very successful company as entrepreneurs… In our hearts, I know we are adding value because we’re offering a product that truly works.

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On work ethic:

What I encourage women to do is look at where they’re spending their time. Are they happy doing that? Is it like a chore? Look at what you love, what you’re passionate at, what you’re really, really good at. If you’re good with connecting with people, that’s what you need to be doing. 

 

We don’t have to do it all. It’s really, really important to give ourselves a break.

This is another amazing encouragement that I give other company owners – letting go and also paying others for something that you don’t want to do anymore, your time and effort is better spent elsewhere. 

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On intentions:

Really listening to our inner voice is magical because it can guide us and we can really feel good about things that we are doing.

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On perceptions: 

I find too the investment in our health today will really prevent an investment in our sickness in the future.

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On growth:

I don’t want to be the one who’s so set in my ways, in my decisions, that I’m not able to change for the better once better comes around.

What’s really empowering to me is the knowledge that whatever I ate in the past and whatever I did in the past to my body, my mind, I can start today and improve and change and it will reverse.  

 

It’s not convenient to change a lifestyle. It’s challenging. It’s hard. It’s turning a whole world upside-down sometimes. 

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On unschooling:

 

Unschooling is sort of a philosophy that we as human beings including children do not need a formal school to learn anything. We learn every single day. I was a teacher; I feel like I’m in a position where I can say this: the [traditional] model is not really working. Our children are not really being prepared for the future…It’s not giving them the skills that they need to thrive. 

 

So the unschooling when I discovered it, it was scary…Then I dug deep and did the research and met families... It was giving our children the freedom and the autonomy to be able to choose and really go for our passions truly without having to worry about the curriculum or math or learning how to read at a certain time. My five-year-old knows his alphabet. No one taught him, he taught himself. We give him resources but who cares if you’re eight or nine and you just learned to read. It’s not a big deal. So it’s really refreshing.

 

My opinion is, the way we’re doing it and the way unschoolers do it for the most part is we get them familiar with the world activities. I love that the children have friends that are older and friends that are younger. And the younger ones thrive by learning from the older ones, having great role models. And the older ones thrive because they become sort of leaders and guides for the younger ones. 

 

I look at [my children] as an equal, I look at them as my friend and why not? Why do we have to be the boss of our children? We could be their guides. 

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On being an entrepreneur: 

Talk to any entrepreneurs out there and you’ll discover that their story, their journey, and their path from where they were when they started to today is not straight. The stepping stones I’ve done in the past have all led me to what I’m meant to do today which is not about deodorant. It’s about showing the world that I can build a company, a really successful company, and use healthy products, this amazing product that works without harming the world, without harming my body or other living creatures. That’s the real mission behind it.

 

Having a family is definitely not a hindrance; I look at it as a major positive cause it’s taught me so much and it’s given me even tougher skin as an entrepreneur.

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On negativity:

Like anyone going against the grain and sort of being their own voice, we are going to get a lot of naysayers. 

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On sustainability:

What we put into our bodies, what we do affects how we think and how we act. 

 

We always try to make sure we buy sustainable products too. That’s very important to us because we don’t want to ruin land or destroy the bees in the process. 

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Keep in touch with Margaux Khoury:

Websites

The Best Deodorant in the World – Natural deodorant redefined. 

 

Huffington Post – Author page.

Theultimategroceryguide.com – Future home of the book, The Ultimate Guide to Organic Groceries to be released soon. 

 

Links Mentioned

 

Alex and Cadey Charfen – Offer products that serve businesses and entrepreneurs.

Dr. Bruce Lipton – Leader in bridging science and spirit. 

Dana Martin  – Activist and author.

Joanne Young – International chef and holistic nutritionist.

Kris Carr – Wellness activist and author.

Marie Forleo – Entrepreneur and online trainer.

Suzie Batiz – Founder and CEO of Poo-pourri.

Tim Ferriss – Educational activist and author of The 4-Hour Workweek. 

Tony Robbins – Author, life and business strategist.

 

Alliance for Self-directed Education – A non-profit organization that focuses on self-directed learning.

Growing Without Schooling – Homeschooling and unschooling resources.

Mental Wellness Summit – Online mental health presentations for purchase. 

Episode 16

 

Summary

In this episode, I chat with Miriam Kwietsniewska aka Miriam K., CPO of Eat Mud and creator of Mud, delicious frozen treats that you can enjoy as ice cream or as mousse. Miriam shares about her life as a dual-citizen, dancing like no one is watching, and her entrepreneurial journey to creating Mud. Miriam has navigated stress-induced poor health and found wellness through trusting herself and listening to her body. We chat about the different experiences you can have with your body- how you can talk yourself into doubt, fear, and failure; how your body gets louder when you don’t listen and how terrible that can feel; and how now Miriam’s body is like a magnet for crazy energy (in a good way).

Today, Miriam dishes on: 

  • why she talks to her body,
  • why people record her on the beach for a different reason, 
  • why you’re amazing (yes, YOU), and
  • the symbolism of the name Mud.

 

Highlights

On her purpose: 

 

We named the product Mud, this four-ingredient ice cream, because it symbolizes something basic and earthy…this muck that we all go through. The story of the lotus in the mud is symbolic of who we are as a company. 

 

We’re not just here to put out a product and make money off it, we’re here to help people be their best selves. We have this vision of helping people, nourishing people and their purpose…If you eat well and you eat good, you will nourish your purpose.

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On discomfort/fear:

 

When you’re in a place of doubt, you’re in a place of static; you’re not moving forward…This gray area is where bad things grow.

 

Be who you are always. Don’t be afraid.

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On failure:

 

The best thing to do when you feel like you’re tumbling out of control is to just unplug everything…sit with yourself and just be okay with what is right now. And say, I love you and I’m here for you no matter what and we’re going to get through this. Learn to talk to your body. 

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On her work:

 

Eighty percent of food in the supermarket has added sugar in it. And sugar is the worst of all additives in the food industry because it doesn’t only make food incredible delicious and addicting, but it also wreaks havoc on our health. It basically creates a toxic load in our body and everything slowly starts breaking down. [In] my quest for health, I had to cut sugar.

 

I’m not going to spend my whole life battling a giant, multi-billion-dollar food industry, because I’d just be sick and miserable. I’ve just been called to add something good in the food industry and talk about mindfulness and food, talk about how simple, almost, it is to eat good and feel good and not have to diet and just be your best self. 

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On intentions:

 

When things come my way and they feel right and they work, I say yes and I explore where that takes me.

 

[When] everyone in the room loves themselves, I think that’s what unites us and makes us pleasant to be around.

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On perceptions: 

 

The thing about diets is they don’t work unless you know yourself. Knowing yourself is the core of everything in life.

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On trusting yourself:

 

Listen to those signals and allow them to lead you on your beautiful path.

 

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On growth:

 

A lot of what I know now is from trial and error and from learning how individualistic each person is, yet, at the same time, we all thrive off real food, whole foods, and foods that grow.

 

My body is my number one teacher.

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On mindfulness:

 

When mindfulness happened for me when I realized that my body is my teacher and no diet is going to be so personalized to me to kind of tell me what I’m feeling in the moment. That required me to start learning to sit still.

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On being an entrepreneur: 

 

I left [foster care] at the beginning of 2015 without any plans. I knew that this job just wasn’t for me. And I was open. Sam is an entrepreneur. And it just clicked…We would stay up till like 4 am every night just making business plans- flavors and website, cups and labels- we just went all in. And the universe conspired with us. 

 

And nowhere along the way was I like, wait, is this the right decision? I just knew it was because I saw the signs around me that it was almost so effortless…I felt so excited. I felt so inspired. And I was like, yes, I want to share this with people because it’s an amazing thing, it’s helping them cut sugar from their lives which is great. There you go. We started the company in 2015 and we’ve been at it ever since.

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On healing:

 

They say your body is your temple. And, whether you’re religious or not, it’s still a place where you carry yourself. I focus on sending it positivity and light and imagining every little cell just bursting with light; it helps me feel like, no matter what happens around me, what’s in my water, what’s in my air, what’s in my food, I feel like I can still nourish myself through my mind’s eye and paying attention to my beautiful body. 

 

Love yourself no matter what. That’s really at the core of why I’m here. Self-love is the beginning of everything. Some people call me selfish. It does seem selfish if you say, well Miriam puts herself first, Miriam focuses on how she feels all the time. But if I start with myself and I start my day in a way where I feel great and I feel excited and I feel like I can do what I set out to do, I’m in a much better position to help others and I’m in a much better position to be of service. 

 

When you touch yourself with love and just allow yourself to soothe yourself, you are doing more healing than any doctor can, than any outside force can. 

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On dance:

 

When I move and I’m in my body, I feel like I reap the same benefits as I do in meditation.

 

Dance is something that people are scared of because it kind of implies being seen. Why are we afraid to be seen by others when we’re happy?

 

I’ve actually been blessed enough to see people just moving in ways that I can see that they’re not holding anything back and that’s the real, raw stuff in life. And that’s what I want around me, that’s what I want to do, and I want to help people bring that out.

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Keep in touch with Miriam:

Websites

EatMud.co – nutritious frozen treats

Social Media

Instagram @eatmud.co

Facebook and Twitter  @eatmudco

Links Mentioned

TRE – Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises